Self-care is self-love

A few years ago I came across the book, “Dying To Be Me” written by Anita Moorjani.  It is an in-depth true story of her own encounter with death.

After 4 years suffering from cancer, she has a near-death experience and she virtually wakes up free of cancer.

She shares her story and her message in the book as well as on-stage speaking.  Her message is all about self-love and honoring who you truly are. I highly recommend the read and if you get the chance to see her in person, it is truly life-changing.

From the moment I finished her book, her message of self-love has stayed with me.  She talks about how much self-judgement we have and how we judge everything that we do, from what we are eating, to what out body looks like, to the house we live in, to our work, to our relationships. It is everywhere in our lives and it is really detrimental to our well-being.

And what we really need is self-love, to truly love ourselves and who we are.

What I have found on my own personal self-love journey is that self-care is necessary because it is a way to show yourself that you love yourself enough to take care of your own needs.  It is a way in, a way to teach yourself how to love.

The more self-love you have the less self-judgment you endure.

And the other thing that happens is that when you truly care for yourself and truly love yourself, you will deeply care and love the people around you, even more than before.

You will judge less and love more.  And you will be judged less and loved more.

It is a cycle and it all works together.  It is a really beautiful thing.

With Love + Appreciation,


PS:   Sometimes I get asked, well I don’t know what to do?  I am doing so much already I don’t have time for self-care.  What I ask is: What does self-care look like to you?  What does self-care mean to you?  It is different for everyone and sometimes it means doing less not more.  Sometimes it means finding the moments in your life where you can simply take deep breaths.  Sometimes it is a walk around the block with your young child, taking in the trees and the flowers.  It is about doing less not more!